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Caregiver Tips for the Holidays

caregiving for the holidaysThe holiday season is typically thought of as a time of merriment, festivities, and visiting with family and friends. For older adults, however, the holidays can present some very unique challenges. For example, crowded family gatherings might be overwhelming, particularly for those with dementia. As a caregiver you have more to think about than just yourself. Taking time to plan ahead can ease the stress and help make things a lot smoother and easier.

Here are some helpful tips to ease the burden during this stressful time of year:

  • Have guests come to the home of the person you are caring for or your home if you are providing care there.This will reduce caregiver stress for you both by keeping festivities in a familiar environment and reduce the stress of traveling.
  • Have a potluck meal instead of having to cook everything yourself. Family and friends will probably be excited about contributing to the holiday meal and it can really reduce your stress. Also, don’t invite everyone you know. Keeping the number of people lower will reduce the noise and help reduce the stress level.
  • Think about positive things. There are any number of things at odds for your time and attention during a day. It is easy to get bogged down physically and emotionally. Take time to think about the good things in your life; a phone call from a friend, the smiles of your children or even listening to your favorite song.
  • Make sure everyone knows about any limitations the person you are caring for has before they arrive. This will prepare everyone and help minimize frustration or embarrassment.
  • Ask for assistance. Again, most people are happy to do something; even if it is small. Taking advantage of their generosity means only asking. You don’t have to do everything yourself.
  • Let gifts contribute to caregiving. If someone asks what kind of gift to bring, suggest something practical, such as easy to prepare meals, gift certificates or even “I owe you’s” for running errands or shopping.
  • Keep it bright! Keeping your home bright with natural sunlight or sufficient lighting will boost your spirit during the gloomy days of Winter.
  • Don’t fall prey to not being active. Sure, you have many things you have to get done, but do some things you love, as well. Work on a personal project you’ve been ‘meaning to get to,’ go outside and enjoy the beauty of Winter, play a game with the family, or work a few puzzles. Whatever you do, keep your mind busy and don’t keep to yourself too much.
  • Reach out to your family and friends. Nothing takes a bite out of stress like a conversation with a friend or loved one.
  • Don’t over-commit. Plan on attending events or celebrations that mean the most to you.  Learn to say, “Thank you, but I can’t.” Committing to too much will increase stress levels and get you off track.
  • Make a good holiday plan ahead of time. Contact guests, plan meals and shop way before the company arrives. This will give you more time to take short breaks during the holiday season.
  • Take a break. Have a friend or another family member come in for an afternoon while you go out and do something nice for yourself. Have a massage, take a long walk or have coffee with a friend.

Most of all, take a moment of quiet for yourself to be thankful. We all have something to be thankful for; think about the blessings you have in your life. Your family’s smiles, the hand of a friend, food on the table, a home, love … for everyone it will be different. For more information on this read our “Stress Free Holidays – Caring for the Caregiver”. It is packed full of resources to help you navigate the holiday season.

Caring For a Senior With Seizures

Seizure in BrainEpilepsy is a common, chronic disorder caused by surges or disturbances in the electrical functioning of the brain. These surges or disturbances cause seizures, and during these seizures certain actions, movements, thoughts, speech, and emotions can be altered.

Caring for a senior with seizures is not too difficult.  Below is a list of do’s and don’ts to help make caregiving easier and a lot less stressful.






DO make them as comfortable as possible. Loosen neckties, scarves, or anything around the neck. Place something flat and soft, such as a towel or jacket, under their head.DO reassure anyone close at hand and discourage onlookers from intruding. Remember, if you stay calm, others will too.

DO time the length of the seizure. His or her neurologist will most likely want this information.

DO stay with them until the seizure ends naturally. Then place them on his or her left side. Post-seizure vomiting can occur before they are fully conscious; turn his or her head so the vomit can drain without being inhaled.

DO be as gentle and supportive as possible as consciousness returns.

DO remember that after a seizure they are usually stricken with a period of confusion.  During this time they will be unaware of anything and most times can’t even put complete sentences together.  This state of confusion can last between 5 to 15 minutes or more depending on how long the seizure was.

DO know what medications are being taken and when to give the medications to him or her.  Many times these medications have to be given at strict times to avoid an onset of another seizure.

DON’T restrain or hold him or her down. Make sure there is nothing hard or sharp nearby that could cause harm.DON’T stick your finger or any other object in the person’s mouth. It is not true that a person experiencing a seizure can swallow his or her tongue. Avoid artificial respiration (such as CPR) except in the rare event that the person is not breathing once the seizure subsides.

DON’T wait to call 911 if this is their first seizure or if the seizure lasts more than five minutes.

DON’T offer water, food, or pills until they are fully alert.  Most times this includes the period of confusion as well.

DON’T panic.  If you panic everyone around you is going to panic and this is going to lead to stress.  The last thing they need when coming out of a seizure is everyone stressed.  Stress is usually one of the triggers of seizures. Remaining calm will help him or her recover from it quicker.

If you remember these do’s and don’ts when providing care for a senior with a seizure condition, caring for them will be a lot smoother and helping them a lot less stressful. To learn more about how seizures are triggered, and how to help seizure victims, visit the Epilepsy Foundation.

The Benefits of Home Health Care

Man-getting-out-of-bed1-300x300Home care has become increasingly popular as an assisted living option, as more elderly people need assistance. Because of the latest medical breakthroughs, millions of adults are now finding themselves taking care of older relatives and parents. When do you decide to utilize home care versus doing it on your own?

Making the Choice

The reality is that it is hard to find a balance between caring for your senior loved one and taking care of your own needs. Many people find they just don’t have the time to manage their own family and care for their aging parents. If your mom and/or dad wants to stay living at home, then providing outside assistance to help them remain in their home is more beneficial, and the statistics show that they live a longer, happier life than they would in n living facility. One of the greatest benefits of home care services is that it will give you the needed break without taking for granted your love one’s care needs. Consider the following benefits of letting a professional handle the difficult tasks:

  • Time – Honestly, time is the most important factor if you want home health care services. Many people just don’t have the time to juggle a career, their own family and the care needed for their aging loved one.
  • Professional Assistance – Home care aides are trained to handle the situations of an elderly loved one. Since they have the expertise and experience in dealing with emergency situations, a home care aide will be able to respond to an emergency with immediate attention.
  • Patient Support and Medication – Taking medications on time and eating like we are supposed to becomes increasingly more important as we age.  Having an in-home caregiver will make sure that your loved one eats a balanced diet, takes her medications on time, and receives immediate medical care when the need arises.
  • Accessibility – Accidents happen.  A caregiver can make sure your loved one gets to the hospital when they need to.  They can drive them to their doctor’s appointments.  They can be there when they fall down and help them get back on their feet.
  • Round The Clock Care – As your loved one’s condition deteriorates due to age, they will require someone to be there at all times.  This would be impossible to do if you have your own family and a career to worry about.  Home care aides can be there round the clock to help your loved one.  The costs of home care is almost always significantly less expensive than putting them in a facility.  Your aging loved one will also feel more comfortable at home.

These are just some of the benefits of getting home care services. Instead of being pressured and burdened by your responsibilities and caring for your loved one, consider a home health caregiver as a practical alternative to trying to do everything on your own. Here is a resource page to help you determine if Mom or Dad needs outside assistance.

How You Can Help a Alzheimer’s Caregiver

caregiver-stress-300x198Many Alzheimer’s caregivers are deeply dedicated and feel like they can handle anything. Usually they are often so burned out they can’t even imagine how anyone could assist them. In addition, they may be reluctant to ask for help because they don’t want to impose and because they’re afraid people will refuse to help.  Reaching out will help avoid getting burned out. We have put together some information on how to get the assistance the caregiver needs.

Caregiver burnout is unfortunately very common when caring for someone with Alzheimer’s Disease. You can alleviate that burnout with an offer to help. It doesn’t have to be much but it does need to be consistent. So if you really want to be of service, instead of just saying, “Let me know if there’s anything I can do,” you may need to volunteer for a specific task(s).

Here are a few ways to help –

  • Help clean the house
  • Take over a meal you’ve cooked
  • Do the laundry
  • Do the grocery shopping
  • Pick up medicines from the pharmacy
  • Volunteer to run other specific errands
  • Mow the lawn and/or do other yard work
  • Visit and just let the person talk about feelings
  • Stay with the Alzheimer’s patient for a few hours so the caregiver can leave the house and do something enjoyable.
  • Take the person with Alzheimer’s out for a drive

With a little thought you can certainly come up with additional ideas to help.  The last two items listed are especially important because they will give the caregiver some badly-needed time alone to rest and recharge his/her batteries. But whatever you select, try to be specific and try to volunteer to do it on an ongoing basis.

If you would like more information on how you can help someone avoid getting caregiver burnout, this page has additional resources that will help.

Prevention: Key To Keeping Elderly Healthy

elderly-exercise1-201x300The elderly population in the United States is increasing rapidly. By 2030, the number of those 65 or older will more than double to approximately 71 million.

This number of elderly Americans has far-reaching implications for our nation’s public health system and will place unprecedented demands on the provision of health care and aging-related services. Public health efforts to promote health and functional independence are critical strategies in helping older adults stay healthy.

Research has shown that poor health does not have to be an inevitable consequence of aging. Older adults who practice healthy behaviors are more likely to remain healthy, live independently and incur fewer health-related costs. An essential component to keeping older adults healthy is preventing chronic diseases and reducing associated complications.

The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention report that about 80 percent of older adults have one chronic condition, and 50 percent have at least two. Infectious diseases (such as influenza and pneumonia) and injuries also take a disproportionate toll on older adults. Efforts to identify strategies to prevent or reduce the risk of disease and injury and to widely apply effective interventions must be pursued.

Fall prevention can save lives and keep an older adult self-sufficient in his or her home longer. According to the CDC one in three adults 65 and older fall.

Following these tips can save a lot of older adults from falling.

Falls may occur for a variety of reasons, one of which is lack of exercise. The CDC states that, “physical activity is the most important factor to healthy aging.” For important health benefits it is recommended that older adults need at least:

  • 150 minutes of moderate-intensity aerobic activity, which translates to 30 minutes a day 5 days a week (i.e., brisk walking) every week;
  • Muscle-strengthening activities on two or more days a week that work all major muscle groups (legs, hips, back, abdomen, chest, shoulders and arms).
  • Or, 30 minutes a day 5 days a week of vigorous-intensity aerobic activity and weight training muscle-strengthening activities on two or more days a week that work all major muscle groups.


Parkinson’s Disease and the Caregiver


What is Parkinson’s Disease?

Parkinson’s Disease (PD) is a progressive, neurological disease that mainly affects movement but can also affect cognition. Parkinson’s disease results from the destruction of nerve cells in the brain that produce the chemical dopamine.

Caregiving for People Living with Parkinson’s

Caring for a loved one with PD can be a challenging job, especially as the disease progresses.  Get prepared, take care of yourself, get help (don’t try to do it all yourself), work to maintain a good relationship with your loved one, and encourage the person with PD for whom you care, to stay active.  These are the most common tips to follow when dealing with a loved one suffering from PD.  We also have put together a Parkinson’s Caregiver Sheet to help you as well. Early Parkinson’s Disease (PD) usually requires more emotional support and less hands-on care. It is a good time for family members/caregivers to educate themselves about the disease.

Get Prepared

Many resources are available online.  The Parkinson’s Disease Foundation (PDF.org)  has a lot of information about the disease.  Another good source of information would be to accompany the person with Parkinson’s to their medical appointments and ask questions of the doctor, nurse and social worker. The areas to assess include your loved one’s needs – both your perceptions and theirs, your home environment, and your own health, emotional state, and other commitments. The caregiver has to determine how much they can and can’t do themselves and what type of outside support is needed. It is also important to assess current and future financial issues such as health insurance coverage, employment (both caregiver and the person with Parkinson’s), managing expenses, and if/when to get Power of Attorney.

Take Care of Yourself

Probably one of the most important, and sometimes difficult, things caregivers can do is to take care of themselves. This includes maintaining mental and physical health by making and keeping your own medical and dental appointments. As a caregiver, it is important to keep your job whenever possible as it provides not only financial help and possibly insurance coverage, but also a sense of self-esteem. Join a support group for caregivers if possible. Support groups help you meet people who are going through what you are going though, vent frustrations, give and receive mutual support, and exchange resource information and coping strategies. Whenever possible get your sleep, take breaks, make and keep social activities, and try to keep your sense of humor.

Get Help

Get help?  Don’t try to do it all alone. By getting help, a caregiver can lessen their sense of isolation, and it gives you more confidence in your own caregiving ability. Having help increases your ability to think creatively and helps you get those needed breaks. Help is available through local and community services.  For a fee there is in-home care for help with cooking, bathing, dressing, and meal preparation. Additionally, a social worker from your health plan or hospital can connect you with other services.

Foster A Good Relationship

Lastly, maintaining your relationship and communication with the person with Parkinson’s can be the most challenging and rewarding aspect of caregiving. As Parkinson’s Disease progresses, the roles change and the person with Parkinson’s may go from being an independent head of the household to a very dependent person requiring a significant level of care. However, research shows that despite high levels of strain, caregivers with good quality relationships have reduced depression and better physical health. Remember, as a caregiver your service to your loved one is beyond measure in terms of love, depth of care, and concern.

Tips To Convincing Your Aging Parents It’s Time To Stop Driving

1-Dangerous-Driver-300dpi-300x2003Driving is perhaps the ultimate symbol of independence and control.  An elderly person is likely going to feel trapped if they are required to give up driving when they are accustomed to that freedom.  Loss of control is a fear for anyone, especially for aging parents, who may be also feeling loss of control of their physical health.

From studies on the subject, we know that most people will relinquish the keys when asked to do so and when the time comes.  But there are still a sizable number of seniors who adamantly refuse to even consider it, in spite of accidents, and urgings of family.

If you are facing the problem of an aging parent who should give up driving and you don’t know how to begin, here are some tips:

1.  Get in the car with an aging parent whom you suspect is not safe behind the wheel.  Observe their driving. They should be able to follow the rules of the road without prompting.  Keep notes.  Notice how your aging parent handles turning, changing lanes, maintaining safe speed and being alert for oncoming traffic.  Your observations can become part of the discussion about your parent’s driving and you can explain why you are afraid of their driving now.  Here is a checklist to help you.  Driver’s Checklist

2.  Acknowledge that this is difficult for your aging parent and approach the subject respectfully.  You can say, “Mom, I know this must be hard for you, but we need to talk about your driving.”  Then use whatever incidents you are aware of that led you to understand that Mom should not be driving.  Accidents, vision problems, dementia, and small strokes can all be very good reasons to give up the keys.

3.  Figure out alternative transportation.  Whether it will involve hiring a driver, using community-based senior transport services, or having family members pitch in, you do not want to leave your parent feeling trapped and deprived of their normal outside activities.

4.  Request retesting for the driver’s license.  Many people who should not be driving can’t pass the driving test, but have a license that is not going to expire for awhile.  Retesting will reveal that they should stop driving.  A physician can make the request as well.  Contact your local DMV website to find out what is needed in your state to request retesting.

5.  Have a family meeting about the subject of driving.  If you are worried, and others in the family will back you up, it may be enough to convince your aging parent to give up the keys.  Be politely insistent. The safety of everyone on the road is at stake.

Even if the conversation about giving up the keys is difficult, it is important to initiate it.  Your parents may not have the courage to stop driving and may need a prompt from you to take that painful step.  Your kind help can keep your aging parent and others a lot safer.

Hoarding: Know the Signs

cumpulsive hardingA hoarding disorder is a persistent difficulty discarding or parting with possessions because of a perceived need to save them. A person with a hoarding disorder experiences distress at the thought of getting rid of the items. This usually results in excessive accumulation of items, regardless of actual value.

Hoarding often creates such cramped living conditions that homes may be filled to capacity, with only narrow pathways winding through stacks of clutter. Some people also collect animals, keeping dozens or hundreds of pets in unsanitary conditions because they can’t care for them properly.

In the homes of people who have a hoarding disorder, the countertops, sinks, stoves, desks, stairways and virtually all other surfaces are usually stacked with stuff. And when there’s no more room inside, the clutter may spread to the garage, vehicles and yard.

Clutter and difficulty discarding things are usually the first signs and symptoms of hoarding disorder, which often surfaces during the teenage years. As the person grows older, he or she typically starts acquiring things for which there is no need or space. By middle age, symptoms are often severe and may be harder to treat.

Hoarding disorder affects emotions, thoughts and behavior. Some of the signs and symptoms may include:

  • Persistent inability to part with any possession, regardless of its value
  • Excessive attachment to possessions, including discomfort letting others touch or borrow them or distress at the idea of letting an item go
  • Cluttered living spaces, making areas of the home unusable for the intended purpose, such as not being able to cook in the kitchen or use the bathroom to bathe
  • Keeping stacks of newspapers, magazines or junk mail
  • Letting food or trash build up to unusually excessive, unsanitary levels
  • Acquiring unneeded or seemingly useless items, such as trash or napkins from a restaurant
  • Difficulty managing daily activities because of procrastination and trouble making decisions

People with hoarding disorder typically save items because:

  • They believe these items will be needed or have value in the future
  • The items have important emotional significance — serving as a reminder of happier times or representing beloved people or pets
  • They feel safer when surrounded by the things they save

Hoarding disorder is different from collecting. People who have collections, such as stamps or model cars, deliberately search out specific items, categorize them and carefully display their collections. Although collections can be large, they aren’t usually cluttered and they don’t cause the distress and impairments that are part of hoarding disorder.

If you think a loved one may have a hoarding disorder, check out these FAQ’s about hoarding that should hopefully answer any questions you may have.

Other resources:


CHILDREN OF HOARDERSInformative web site for families and children of hoarders.

The Cost of Cleaning out a Hoarders House

Hoarding can hurt homeowner’s insurance coverage

The Official Do and Don’t List for helping hoarders.

How to Get Hoarders into Treatment

Staging an Intervention

Important Tips on Caring For an Elderly Person with Arthritis

Arthritis can be painful and difficult for the elderly to deal with so it’s good to know how to help those with arthritis when necessary. Knowing about the different types of arthritis can also be very helpful. It’s the best way to assist those with arthritis.

Rheumatoid Arthritis and Osteoarthritisarthritic elderly hand opening a pill bottle

There are two different types of arthritis, rheumatoid arthritis and osteoarthritis. Rheumatoid arthritis causes swelling of the joints as well as joint damage. It’s an autoimmune disorder that can best be treated with medication. Osteoarthritis occurs when the cartilage between the joints disintegrates. This causes the bones to rub against each other. Both types of arthritis can cause the joints to become inflamed and stiff which makes it hard for those with arthritis to move their joints. Arthritis most commonly occurs in the joints of the hands, wrists, knees and feet which can make it hard for those with arthritis to move around or pick things up.


Medications are the best way to manage arthritis, but many seniors forget to take their medication regularly or only take it when their pain becomes excruciating. It’s important to make sure that they are familiar with the medication.

  • Make sure they are taking it as prescribed so that their symptoms can be kept under control.
  • Many seniors also have trouble opening their medication because of their joint pain so it can be helpful to put the medication into an alternate container that is easier for them to open.
  • Cold packs or heat packs are also very helpful for relieving joint pain from arthritis.

Strengthening the Muscles

Strengthening the muscles surrounding arthritic joints is another way to help alleviate pain. Many doctors and physical therapists can suggest exercises that can be completed at home on a regular basis that will strengthen their muscles and allow for easier joint movements. When seniors are not exercising their muscles they should try to limit their movements that require usage of the joints that are affected with arthritis. Having them move slowly and fluidly is also helpful because it puts less wear on the already damaged joints. Also, it’s important to discourage the lifting of heavy objects and encourage them to rest their joints as much as possible.

Exercise Plan

Another thing to consider when dealing with arthritis is a diet and exercise plan. It is important for those with arthritis to watch their weight. Excess weight can make arthritis symptoms worse since the extra weight puts more strain on the muscles and joints. Encourage them to exercise on a regular basis or exercise with them so that they can stay in shape and maintain a healthy body weight. Another way to help them watch their weight is by making sure that they eat healthy meals on a daily basis.  Fresh fruits and vegetables are loaded with antioxidants which can help slow the progression of arthritis and aid in metabolism.


Finally, one thing that can be done is to make sure that things in the home are easily accessible. Keeping scissors on hand for opening packages can be very helpful for those with arthritis because the pain and inflammation can make opening things very difficult. Electric can openers and tools for opening jars are also useful, especially for those who do not have a live-in caregiver. Seniors might not think to buy these things on their own, but purchasing these items can be an inexpensive way to help. Following these tips can help assist in the managing of arthritis pain. Please keep in mind that joint pain and inflammation can make even the simplest of daily tasks extremely difficult.  Being very patient and helpful will make caring for them a lot easier. If taking care of them is still troublesome, then speak with their doctor to get additional information or consider hiring a home care service provider in the area.

Avoid Caregiver Burnout – Part 3

95613396-300x208This is part three of a series that offers some helpful tips to avoid caregiver burnout when dealing with someone suffering with Alzheimer’s disease. Learning as much as possible about Alzheimer’s can help alleviate burnout and make life easier for you and the person afflicted with this disease. This part discusses realistic expectations and setting up a game plan.  This is the final part of that series.


Realistic Expectations

Not having a clear picture of your situation or the prognosis sets you up for rude awakenings or a lot of unnecessary struggle. Once you know what to expect, you can adjust your expectations accordingly. This process also makes it easier to accept his fate.

Learn as much as you can about Alzheimer’s and stay abreast of what to expect at different stages of the disease. Talk to others who’ve lived through the caregiving experience on message boards or in support groups. You’ll be better able to deal with what you’re going through and gain a peek at what could lie ahead.

You’ll learn from experience to be realistic about expectations for the person with Alzheimer’s. Keep outings with friends relatively brief and uncomplicated. Figure out what kinds of food, activities, music, and other daily routines work — and stick to them.

Be realistic, too, about your expectations for family members. Distant siblings may simply not be able to devote the same time to caregiving as those nearby, for example. Children may be disturbed or frightened by the changes in a grandparent and shouldn’t be expected to understand the disease and pursue the same kind of relationship as before.

A Game Plan

Alzheimer’s disease is progressive, which means that while the person with Alzheimer’s may stabilize for a long stretch of time, he’ll never recover lost abilities. He’ll only gradually worsen over time.

It’s one thing to understand the progression of the disease but a different matter to put a corresponding action plan in place. Having a plan makes the emotional transition easier and helps everyone understand the needs involved, financial and otherwise.

You may not be able to address every possibility, but you can start by researching what’s likely to happen when — and your corresponding options. Start by dividing your planning into stages:

  • What needs to happen at this stage in terms of care?
  • Who will provide care?
  • Where will he live?

For example, soon after diagnosis you’ll need to arrange access to medical, legal, and financial records, as well as the transfer of decision-making authority to you, another family member, or a close friend. By the end stage, someone with Alzheimer’s needs round-the-clock care, and you can start to figure out where that would take place and by whom.

Start conversing with family members about these things now, even if they’re difficult. Get the input of the doctor, a geriatric care manager, and other professionals involved in her case. Knowing all about Alzheimer’s disease will save everyone time and help get things coordinated.